Do you have a gay guy friend hiding in his closet. I mean living in lies, making people believe, even his own family, that he is straight. In our society today, I can say we all (if not, well most of us) do have!
There are several types of gays. Some gays dress like women and flaunt it and some are almost clown-like and enjoy showing people what they are, but, mostly there are many gays that look straight and aren't acting at all. Gays aren't "fairy-like" or "feminine" always (e.g. famous sports figures, actors, famous people are gay and you'd never know it). Gays don't have pink horns glued out of their heads or a post-it attached in their forehead saying “Hello World, I am Gay”!
As I browse the Internet, One very good explanation is "lack of knowledge in society on the subject of gays." Another reason is society as a whole is uneasy about gays to this day although things are getting a little better.
Logically: Why do criminal's wear masks? Why do spies go by alias? Why do guys not tell their wife they're in love with another woman? The answer to all of these questions is simple. Because they don't want to have problem in dealing with the consequence of being themselves.
I'm sick of hearing people say "Just be yourself because trying to be something you're not is hell, it's just stupid...blah…blah" What's stupid is that mindset of individuals that can't understand what gay is.
Put yourself in someone else's shoes for a second. For some of us it's a little harder than it is for others to come out of the closet. From the moment we're born were assumed to be heterosexual. To act what the society expects us to act. You don't hear parents say "I hope he's not straight, I hate basketball and boxing and having all those girls in the house would be so embarrassing."
A friend once confide to me that He have to act straight to survive. Like many other gay guys, he would be kicked out of their house if he ever came out.
Many others just don't want to come out in fear of losing friendships, or trust or (sadly enough) jobs or many other benefits they have from pretending to be straight.
Lets admit that not all of us have the opportunity to come out!
I have to say that gay people act straight to avoid pressure from their peers. If they feel that they have to fit in, they have to act different to how they naturally would.. in my opinion, i believe that people should be themselves, despite what others think of it. If they don't like it, they'll get over it. Being gay is not a crime, a punishable misdeed that will result to suffering.
Well, I am gay,. And so proud to be one!
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